A series of 31 conversations from the Front Porch day 15… catch up here.
Day 15: Your Nature Matters
I am an introvert with extrovert qualities. While I like to go to a party or be around people I find that too much company and too much social time exhausting. I refuse to even fake it. Give me a few family members or close friends, a pot of coffee or a bottle of wine plus some good food and the front porch or a few of us gathered around a fire pit and I am content and at peace.
It’s the slow pace – the leaning in to others deeply that matters most to me.
Throw me in a room with a bunch of very loud people all competing to speak over one another with the television or music on and you will find me retreating to the kitchen table or the empty living room in an attempt to maintain my sanity. You might even find me hiding with the kids… Perhaps I am in the thick of it – loud and right there with everyone else, but there is a cost to my body, mind, and family when I choose the spotlight.
We all have situations that fill us up or suck us dry. We each have relationships that offer life or leave us gasping for breath. The key to thriving in the life you have been given is learning to listen to your body, spirit, and heart to discern what is what for you .
It requires learning to understand how your body reacts to the people and situations you encounter. And to live in that as authentically as possible while focusing on self-care and health. It is very difficult to love others when your own life is bankrupt of self-love. You have to love yourself first – and loving yourself starts by being true to how you were made.
“So stay true to your own nature. If you like to do things in a slow and steady way, don’t let others make you feel as if you have to race. If you enjoy depth, don’t force yourself to seek breadth. If you prefer single-tasking to multi-tasking, stick to your guns. Being relatively unmoved by rewards gives you the incalculable power to go your own way.” (Susan Cain, “Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can Not Stop Talking”)
From the Front Porch,
“Our fear of being alone drives us to noise and crowds. We keep up a constant stream of words even if they are inane. We buy radios that strap to our wrists or fit over our ears so that, if no one else is around, at least we are not condemned to silence… But loneliness or clatter are not our only alternative. We can cultivate an inner solitude and silence that sets us free from loneliness and fear. Loneliness is inner emptiness. Solitude is inner fulfillment” (Richard Foster).
- Are you an introvert or an extrovert?
- What types of situations fill you up or suck you dry?
- Do you find peace – in solitude and quiet OR do you find peace – in the spotlight and the noise?
- Name two friendships/relationships that offer you life? Why? How?
- Name two relationships that suck you dry? Why? How?
- How do you cope when you are overloaded or lonely?
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